by Andrea Widburg
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no account of wrongs. Love takes no pleasure in evil but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” — 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
“Love is not love/Which alters when it alteration finds.” — William Shakespeare, Sonnet 116
“I love my wife when she does things right. And when she does things wrong, I beat the living daylights out of her, so that she can be lovable again.” — The average wifebeater
The first two quotations above are very, very famous. Both make it clear that a healthy, honest love is not conditional.
That is, your loved one does not need to conform minute-by-minute to some idea of perfection that you hold to earn your love on a daily or hourly basis. Nor, if the loved one fails at any point to meet that standard, does that mean you have the right to use brutal punishment to “correct” your loved one. Instead, a healthy love is about the give-and-take of real life, about emotional generosity and kindness, and about viewing your loved one without constant criticism coloring that love.
But wifebeaters don’t do healthy, honest love. Instead, they are narcissists (or sociopaths or psychopaths) who use a manipulative illusion of love as a carrot and stick to force their partner’s behavior. (And yes, narcissism is on my mind today.)
There’s nothing patient or kind about the wifebeater’s love. If you manage to hit the sweet spot in the beater’s expectations, you’ll get kind, even affectionate, treatment. And if you don’t...well, you’ll get what’s coming to you until you’ve earned back that “love.”
As in little things, so it is in big things. Democrats are the wifebeaters of America. They don’t love their country, even if they mouth platitudes around Independence Day and during election season. Indeed, Zohran Mamdani’s deserved ridiculed July 4th statement perfectly illustrates that kind of thing: After a rote declaration of respect for America and its institutions, he proceeded to attack it as a fatally flawed, disgraceful country:
All Democrats do that. They despise and abuse America when it fails to meet their demands. It earns their affection only when it functions in a way that makes them feel well served.
And if you doubt me, just look at this chart:
Republicans may be unhappy with an American policy or political party, but they always love the essence of America: The Declaration of Independence, the Constitution, the traditional moral values that made both unique documents possible, American culture, and our vast and varied continent. Their love is always and forever.
We are not the same.

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